Blogging Makes Finding the Good News Easier

One priority of my job as a parent and especially as a homeschooler (because I monopolize my kids’ time) is to show my kids how the world should be – – or at least what it could be, at its best.  They’ll find out how it is soon enough.

And yet, I repeatedly fall into the trap of reading news in my few spare moments.  I’m talking about mainstream news about the affairs of the world and of the United States, most of which I don’t want to share with my kids.  Most of which I do not want to know myself.

Maybe I should just stick with Captain underpants

Maybe I should just stick with Captain Underpants.

The news is important, no doubt.  But if I really want to lay the world of possibility at my children’s feet then I need to keep abreast of all that potential myself.  After all, what we put into our world limits – – or expands  – – what we get out.

I believe that if we want good things to happen we need to think about them, to look for them, and to work for them.

Thus, it was a very real and quite unexpected gift to find that a Romanian writer, an Indian homemaker, an Aussie poet and a European tour guide blogging about Prague have all connected to my blog.  Once I noticed them, I clicked over to their blogs and their worlds became mine.  And those worlds were full of clever thoughts and good news.

In the 10 minutes of time I had to myself, I got to read this poem, which I later shared with my husband and which allowed us to daydream about our own fun times after this adventure of child rearing wanes.  It is called, Not So Old.  I can taste the cold, bubbly, beer as I toast with my handsome husband some day (even if it is not so soon) as I read:

Europe in the Spring time
a tankard full of beer
riding bikes
and hillside hikes
we’re brimming with good cheer

Cheers to you, Claudie!

I had a good laugh as I read about a newly married Indian woman who fell as she walked with her husband through the lobby of their resort on their honeymoon.  I laughed because my own husband and I have a similar story, one that he loves to tell, and which involves me convulsively laughing at a woman who tripped in front of us.  What can I say?  I’m not mean.  It was a nervous reaction (no matter what my husband says!).

I got to see Prague through the eyes of a local.  One of the reasons we homeschool is so that we have the flexibility to travel.  I am definitely putting Prague on my list of places to go once we’re ready to head to Europe!  And I was able to share a rainbow of colors in Prague with my kids, which they loved. We often play a game to pass the time in the car in which we each try to find one item for every color of the rainbow as fast as we can.  Purple, by the way, is really hard.

I loved this piece, and its emphasis on the importance of making a fool of oneself in order to be successful, for two reasons.  First, it is true.  And second, when I was in college, a professor of whom I was very fond required,  in one of my very favorite classes, that each student make a fool of herself while reciting, by heart, a Shakespearean sonnet.  The whole experience was stressful.  And hard.  And funny.  And liberating.  I want my kids to have that freedom!

I traveled the world in less than 10 minutes, dreaming others’ dreams, which are remarkably like my own, all while in my pajamas.  And that is good, no, great news!  And definitely something worth sharing with my family.

Do you have good news to share?  Please do.  And I’ll share it with my kids.


Friends with Secret Talents

I have a friend with a lot of secret talents.  She doesn’t hide them.  She simply doesn’t brag about them.  (Difficult to work “Oh, yes, that painted portrait hanging on the wall is mine.  I mean, by me. ” or “I courted my spouse by coming out of the bedroom by playing the trombone,” into everyday conversation, even if it is awesome.)

How does she do it, especially now that she has three pre-schoolers of her own?

She reminds me that we parents need to find a bit of time to nurture our own interests and talents.  For ourselves.  For our kids.  For our partners.  She is one of the reasons I started writing.

I admire her time management and her vast artistic abilities.  I wish I had more of both!  She started a blog of her own recently using yet ANOTHER talent, and as someone who loves photography and kids,  I pore over every new post.

This week’s:

I love this post because it reminds me of our own nighttime rituals.  And the calm that finally comes as freshly bathed kids sleepily climb into the bed, finally still for a few moments.  Can’t you just smell those clean babies!?  And of course, it reminds me of the beach, where we spend time every year with family and with some of our best friends, making memories.

Do you have friends who inspire you?  Let them know!

It’s on, Internet!

I wrote a while back about my “bucket list”.    Number 1 on it was to start a blog and post weekly.  I did that.  And I am really enjoying it.  Yeah for me!

Up until this last week the blog was private.  As I wrote in that bucket list post, I was afraid of failure and that was why, until that post, I hadn’t voiced some of my dreams to anyone (even, really, myself).  Keeping the blog private was a way for me to control the goal.  I mean, how harsh would my two readers be (Hi, Mom and Dad!)?  I really didn’t even tell my closest friends about it until recently.  I didn’t want anyone to judge me or what I wrote.

I am a realistic person.  I understand that even if I made this blog public, I would still probably only have about, oh, 2 loyal readers.  But I also understand that once something is presented to the internet it is out there forever, even if no one cares.

That being said, thanks to my husband, I realized that in keeping the blog private I wasn’t really achieving the original intent of my blogging goal of putting myself out there.  Sure, I wouldn’t be judged.  But I was also missing out on both giving and getting a lot of potential support.  And that is a shame.   We’re all in this together, right?

A month or so ago I caught a bit of a 2012 interview of Lena Dunham by Terry Gross on NPR.  In it Ms. Dunham talks about having so much of her work out there on the internet.  She says:

I’ve sort of just made the decision to be OK with the fact that I’m not going to love everything that I put out into the world, and I kind of go, well, maybe, my hope is oh maybe it’ll sometime be helpful for another young artist to sort of see my development and see the way that it – that I sort of lived out loud a little bit.

I guess that’s my hope too.

I, like my daughter at Christmas, am hoping that what I have opened up is a good thing.

I, like my daughter at Christmas, am hoping that what I have opened up is a good thing.

I am always pushing my kids to take risks and to step outside their comfort zones.  As a parent and role model, shouldn’t I do the same?

And so, finally, at Joe’s urging, I literally hit the button (ok, I clicked it).  And there it is: a PUBLIC blog.  I am excited.  I am nervous.  I am fearful.  Please be kind, internet!

Joe called me the next morning to let me know that I had practically “blown up” the internet with my thoughts!!   What I mean by that is, I had my first non-friend, non-parent related “like”.  And it made my day.

Thanks for the support , IGameMom!